As you know, I’m on the prowl. I’ve been dating, which inevitably includes pondering the mystery of the “two great dates and he
disappears” phenomenon. I’ve been doing a little making out with guys who are too young for me (I gotta stop that!). Hell, I even went on a total
setup/pseudo blind date (still waiting for him to follow up properly). But, so far, nothing much to report on my dating life.
No boyfriend material means I have been admiring the goods just about everywhere I go!
The other day, I was checking out guys when I
was… um, someplace and breathing. The mall? The grocery store? The library? Who knows. A
single woman on the prowl must keep her eyes peeled, folks. And what do I notice first? His hands.
Since I was about
20-years-old, whenever I’m checking out guys, I always, always, always do the WBC.
WBC is Kat speak for "Wedding Band Check."
My eye automatically drifts down to any guy’s
left ring finger. Then my next thought would either be “Game on (possibly!)” if
his finger were vacant or “Damn. Next!” if his finger were occupied. It’s
funny, even when I was married, I would find myself checking, just out of
curiosity.
(For the record, I just look at his finger. I rarely actually approach the guy with the naked
finger, though I’m working on my courage. And I stay far away from a guy with a
ring!)
So anyway when I was scoping out some cute stranger’s
hand while shopping or picking out cereal or selecting a book, a thought struck
me: I bet women check out Max and his naked left hand all the time. I mean, why
wouldn’t they? He’s just about six feet tall, a lean but strong build, a good
head of dark hair, and an amazing smile. A handsome guy who’s not wearing a
ring? He’s prime for the picking!
Whoa. Other women are looking at Max. Does he
notice? Does he care? Has he dated at all? Has he kissed anyone?
What did he do with the elegant platinum wedding
band that he selected five years ago?
(He was still wearing it when we met with the mediators. It was so sad. My rings had been off for weeks.)
(He was still wearing it when we met with the mediators. It was so sad. My rings had been off for weeks.)
I looked down at my naked left ring finger.
Max never once asked me what I did with my engagement ring. (I sold it last year and bought myself a right hand ring.) He certainly has never asked me
about dating. So I guess I’ll never know what became of his wedding band.
Do you regularly do the WBC? Do you know what your ex did with his or her wedding rings?
